Physiologically, relationships start from the minute we lay our eyes on you. Before you said a word or told us that you workout (yes, that’s the deal closer) we were attracted to your figure, squat ability, appearance , tricep separation and representation. Fast forward past the awkward hello, dates, arguments, and “behind your bushes” stalking we now have a life together. But in this new life, you STILL have to workout
I know, I know; most women abandon the cardio machines for cuddling in the honeymoon phase. But while movie dates and endless restaurant-hopping are the stuff romantic memories are made of, one thing that seems to get lost is the idea that “this is how you came, this how you should stay.” Or in laymen’s terms; you are not allowed to gain any weight.
* hears an angry protestor screaming, ” A real man will love me however I am or get !”*
Yes, we love you and cherish the fact that you are willing to bear our kids, work, cook (if you get home before your partner) and still stimulate our minds, But keep in mind the idea that men are visual creatures and 43 percent of women gain weight compared to just 29 percent of men in relationships. Actually, it’s said that women tend to eat more when they’re happy and as a result, the average woman gains seven pounds over the first year of a new relationship.
Now, most men will avoid this conversation (because it seems like surefire way to die by your lady’s hand) but whether we’re brave enough to bring It up or not, signs of lowered interest may show up nevertheless. To be clear, I’m NOT justifying these actions but I can understand why they happen. For many women, it seems that the point of working out was to find a mate and once they garner one, they go ahead and put the dumbbells down. Suddenly the woman that screamed ‘Eat Clean, Train Dirty,’ is cooing ‘Love Hard, Eat Often’ to her new guy. The thing is that research shows that people who work out more often tend to have sex more often. So that woman who worked out to the get the guy, quite literally should continue to work out to keep him satisfied. Another study showed that 80 percent of men and 60 percent of women who exercised two to three times weekly rated their own sexual desirability as above average. This idea makes perfect sense; the laws of attraction create space in the universe for couples to enjoy each other as was apparent when the relationship first blossomed.
Now allow me to be devil’s advocate; if your significant other where to find you less attractive because you chose to stop doing the thing that made you physically attractive in the first place …is he wrong for developing a roaming eye? He is, but we should understand how it happens. The bottom line is simple; your health alone should be the number one reason for heading to the gym, but maybe a good second reason could be the idea of sustaining a lasting relationship?
* looks at angry mob approaching me *
In no way am I saying we shouldn’t enjoy restaurants, temporarily maroon ourselves to Couch Island or dedicate less time into the gym( well… Not sure about that last one ), but can I be honest? There’s nothing better (and according to the data, longer lasting) than a couple that sweats together. Looking for a few ways to bring love to the gym?
– create a fun workout routine with your significant other
– make a healthy dinner together as opposed to eating out
– have an open conversation about the importance of health and fitness and its role in the relationship
– contact me @bodybyzeustraining; I LOVE love and will happily kick both your butts in a group session.
* walks into crowd of women and kisses every hand ….gestures suavely to the lit candle, baked chicken and sweet potato, dinner by the elliptical machine*